"The difference between a caprice and a lifelong passion is that a caprice lasts longer." When the great Oscar Wilde wrote this sentence, he probably didn't expect that three people (Richard Linklater, Ethan Hawke and Julie Delpy) would make a movie to vividly and thoroughly interpret this famous sentence of his. 'Before Sunrise' was all about caprice. An American guy spent a night with a French girl in Vienna. They flirted, drank, laughed, had sex and parted before the Sun rose again. The night passed by pleasantly with all the pretentious conversations between two typical twenty-some pseudo-intellectuals. He felt like a different person with her; she wanted to be lost in this beautiful dream. Although it's a corny one-night stand with an even cheesier poem inserted weirdly into the middle of the film, 'Before Sunrise' demonstrates how every love story starts. As two people connect and fall in love, they present to each other the best versions of themselves, the no-liability view on life and the impractical ideals about relationship. Nine years later, when 'Before Sunset' caught up, the honeymoon stage was long gone and the bitterness just kicked in. Instead of talking about '911' or any major events that had happened (since both of them were in New York for some time), the two people assumed that the other was better off in his or her life. He wondered why she never showed up; she found it unfair that he became successful while she was aging and trapped in failed relationships. The presumptuous thing about knowing a person by just a little bit is that one forgets that a story, by default, has to be interesting. Both the storytellers and listeners tend to omit the intermittent uneventfulness, hence the illusion and insecurity of other people's lives being more exciting than their own. Eventually through all the things that didn't work, the man and the woman realized what was most important for them and got together. Another nine years later, they took the offer to spend a romantic night away from the kids and the mid-life crisis but the fighting couldn't stop, not even by sex. 'Before Midnight' darkened and deepened the two characters' relationship, it was brutally honest about life's toll on couple, its impatience on love and its immunity to communication. When passion becomes commitment and sacrifice; man becomes a rationalist without emotion, woman a philosopher without reasoning. Recently I had a conversation with a friend about how long it would take to know your partner in a relationship. While I argued that it takes as long as it gets, my friend confidently claimed that one month, at most, should be more than enough to know all the things needed to know about the other person. His Charlotte Lucas "Don't ask, don't tell" style made me wonder: how can a person be sure of the love of his life just by meeting her twice over 9 years? At the end of 'Before Midnight', Jesse himself answered my question: he threw away everything because of Celine's little waltz; he put up with all the craziness because he decided to "miss that plane". The ultimate answer to the Before trilogy is that love is about the good, the bad and the ugly. There is no such ending as happily ever-after. After going through the pretentious, the presumptuous and the preposterous, the finale of love is a conscious choice, a decision to take a chance with someone, to give to him or her without asking why. So I guess there is no fairy tale here, just great sex in the Southern Peloponnese of Greece.
I'm just trying to make things better here. I tell you I love you unconditionally, I tell you that you're beautiful, I tell you that your ass looks great when you are 80. I'm trying to make you laugh. I've put up with plenty of your shit. If you think I'm just some dog that's gonna keep coming back, then you're wrong. But if you want true love, then this is it. This is real life, it's not perfect but it's real, and if you can't see it then you're blind.
看完爱在三部曲,给我留下印象最深刻的不是浪漫激情落入现实后的一地鸡毛,而是那个从未出现过的Jessie的前妻。
起初她模模糊糊地出现在两人的交谈中,是一个遥远而温柔的背景色:
而后Jessie和Celine生活在一起后,她变成了两人无数矛盾中的一个:
我莫名地心疼那个从未露过面的女人,在这个浪漫得惊天动地的爱情故事中不小心沦为过客和配角的女人。
她原本是个聪明独立又优雅的女性,原本幸福而稳定地经营着三口之家,而在某一天,她认为足以信任依靠的丈夫告诉她,他从未爱过她,他与她相处的日子里一直在想念着另一个女人,而现在他找到了她,他们要在一起,他要结束这段有了孩子却没有爱的婚姻。
拼命用伤害儿子和自己的方式来介入他的幸福生活,是她唯一能想到的报复。你总不能要求那个被伤害的人去理解男女主的爱情多么浪漫珍贵然后理应让路吧,对一个以为自己拥有过爱情而实际上不过是现实的凑合的要强的人来说,这大概是世界上最难承受的痛苦了吧。
而我们大多数人,在这个故事里的角色,难道不是这样以安稳为爱情去接受生活并努力经营,一辈子也难以遇到无法割舍的爱人的配角么。
当你不是命运的宠儿,而这往往是最可能的情况,我们该如何安放自己的渴望、尊严和骄傲呢。
2013年爱情剧情片,讲述一对总是不期而遇的璧人在希腊相遇后的故事。爱在三部曲最后一部。三部曲最牛的地方是每部都是时隔九年,都是同一演员!落日余晖,午夜梦回,九年一梦,碎影流年。
你不会希望《爱在午夜降临前》是《爱在》系列的终结,相知相遇后的结合,纯粹的爱意在十八年后,依旧充斥着迷人的魅力,“如果你知道自己想和谁一起度过余生,你会希望余生开始得越早越好。”美丽的伯罗奔尼撒给人以无限对爱的遐想。
可能会有偶然的心动,但我绝对只会爱你一个人。你存在于我的心房,但你也是我身上令人厌烦的孳生品:皮屑、污垢、臭汗。我讨厌他们,但他们永远无止无息的伴我产生。
“我虽努力,却难于去亲近自己心爱的人”经历了平淡、争吵、否定、相濡以沫所有最真实的感情状态,18年过后,最难的是仍对彼此保有激情。上一次看到这么纯粹的爱情电影,还是九年前。伊桑朱莉理查请你们9年后准时回来,哪怕拍不动了、聊不起了、原地静坐90分钟,也好啊。期待2022年的第四部。
真实的不像话。换在9年前,我会看不下去两人婚后的絮絮叨叨、不断地吵架及和好,放到现在,却“心有戚戚焉”。互相折磨、互相伤害、互相妥协、并肩前行。爱人只不过是“经过”了你生命的那个人,而这份“经过”也请好好珍惜。
为了看第三部,特意重温了前两部。还把《恋人絮语》找出来读了下。期待第四部Before Death(爱在棺材盒盖时)……
所以说想要长久地在一起,必须是有一方一直不厌烦地陪着做戏。
只有我关注引发吵架的生活问题其实一个都没解决吗?
作为Before的系列路,我终于在中年危机这里转了粉。Sunrise太甜,Sunset偏酸,只有Midnight酸甜苦辣都入了味。数度被台词戳中,我不得不一再提醒自己:那些只是台词,它们不是真的。
第一部时还愿意有更多的转换场景,更多的配乐,更多的更像电影的呈现方式。到此时,电影本身就是生活本身。这是导演的野心,也是自信。交谈、争吵与和好,争论与妥协。其实,他们还是18年前那一对年轻的男女。抓住人心的不是电影,永远都是生活本身。
十八年后他们变成了相遇那天火车上喋喋不休争吵摔门的德国夫妇
浪漫是浪漫,生活是生活。爱 是爱。这是三件事。它们相互不矛盾,不对立,它们只是,很难统筹兼得。(看到有恋人在我这条微薄里留言给另一半:“想在你拥有我的日子里,给你一个三者并包的人生。”默默地说,祝福你们!)
真好,你还能让我一次又一次的爱上。
第三部反而代入感特别强了,感觉在女主身上看到几十年后那个依然很作的自己,人愿意来哄你就已经很好了,女文青这脾气啊,真是不适合生活的典型,做不到三从四德逆来顺受,给一点爱就受宠若惊,完全以男方为中心就不是贤良淑德了么,反正我也做不到。再过56年我也还是现在这个挑剔,别扭的脾气。
能让所有投入的心血精力时间感情不白费功夫,除了宽容忍让,就是彼此的幽默和释怀,纯粹的完全真实的百分之百的爱情无法存活,请接受对方的缺点和过错,忽略皱纹和唠叨;幻想和另一个谁会有更好结局,至多让你有勇气谈论“爱”,这是奢侈的虚伪的笨拙的;请接受眼前现状吧。
“他们竟然____了”模式开启。从爱情的偶然到爱情的实然,浪漫也终于被相处的实用性取代。“就像日出日落,我们出现,我们消失,可最终只是经过。”那些琐碎的争吵怨念放在时间的河里似乎也就不算什么了。他最后向她朗读了一封40年后的来信——原来前18年还只是序曲,我流泪了...
黎明和黄昏后最自然最真实的承接。年轻时对爱情,社会以及人生的观点和展望被中年后那些围绕着家庭,婚姻以及职业展开的争吵和不满所替代。即便如此,依旧是妙语连珠,吐不完的激情和浪漫。若不是当初的深情,怎会有今夜的碰撞?片尾那封来自未来的信设计得太美妙了。让我们9年后再相见吧。
虽然之前的争吵真实得让人糟心,但结尾逐渐拉远的镜头仍让人感动。前两部的浪漫与激情都变成了书里的故事,这一部则完全生活下来。各种鸡毛蒜皮的琐事只是一个假设,关于如何让爱延续一生。生活中总会有这样那样的矛盾,人也会变老(比如半裸的朱莉·德尔佩却很难让你觉得性感)问题是我们如何挨过去。
结婚快10年互相之间还有这么多话可讲,还有性生活,这他妈不是真爱是什么?
"We appear and we disappear, and we're important to some, but we're just passing through. "
他们的爱情一直让我想到哈利对莎莉最后的表白,“如果你知道自己想和谁一起度过余生,你会希望余生开始得越早越好。”十八年,从相遇相爱到这一部中被生活历练过的爱,柴米油盐和时间没有磨平爱情,反而让爱变成了一种习惯,太了解彼此,于是越来越难戒掉。期待九年后的续集了!★★★★★
飞一般的超越,硬生生的被朱莉的嘴炮给弄哭了。。那些随口就能背诵莎士比亚台词的人们是多么的可恶啊!那些吃个下午茶都在谈哲学谈人生的人们是多么可憎啊!那些连夫妻吵架都引经据典的男女是多么可怕啊!对彼此来说我们多么重要,可最终还是过客,我失去你,不是以死亡为界,而是再一次。。再一次。。
为什么要结婚为什么要生小孩为什么要毁掉自己的生活